The little things.

I think relationship's biggest problem is expecting someone to do the things you would do. Maybe you are a super affectionate person, but your spouse isn't. Or maybe you leave little notes of love around the house, but they don't. And you may think to yourself (as I have) why can't I get back what I give? But I've come to the realization...if they want to do it they will and if they don't, they won't. But what if they show you love in their own way? What if their little things aren't shown in the same way yours are & you're completely missing their signs of affection and love? Crazy thought huh?

For example, I am the type of wife who will lay out my husbands clothes. Or buy cards and leave them on his bedside table. Or draw pictures and leave them for him to find. Stuff like that. But my husband usually doesn't show his love in that kind of way. It used to irritate me. WHY CAN'T HE SHOW ME LOVE?! Well he does...I was just missing it while I was expecting to see him do the same things back for me. 

My husband doesn't do laundry. But when he does, that's him telling me "Babe I got this one." My husband doesn't wash dishes and bottles but we he does that's him telling me "I know you do this all the time so let me get this round." My husband rubs my feet and back and that's him telling me "I know you're tired, let me make you feel better." My husband makes me wear my seat belt and tells me buckle up and that's him saying "I love you so much and would never want you to die if something were to happen." My husband shows me affection in the smallest ways and I used to miss it all the time and solely focus on why he couldn't just do what I do. But how silly would that be? If I wanted someone just like me, I should've dated myself. 

Just a thought.