I don't plan on dying anytime soon. In fact, I would like to stay around long enough to at least see my first grandchildren. But sometimes you just never know when that moment will come. I've joked with my husband about how I'm worried my children will never eat a proper meal if I pass away while they're still young. He jokes back about how they'll have hot dogs, ramen noodles, and hot Cheetos.
I don't expect my husband to really know all I do for this family. Like how certain clothes are folded and put into the drawers while others are hung up. Or how Layla's bottles are hot pink while Stassi's are light pink. How I wash them separately so the nipples can't be paired with the wrong bottle. How certain dishes go in certain places. How certain bills are paid. Or how there's a certain cry that each of our children have that indicate what they want at that moment. There's a lot that goes into being mom. There's times my sweet husband can't find something where it's been right in front of him, but he calls on me to find it for him. It's part of being a wife, a mom, a loving caretaker of the family. But I have some requests for you my sweet husband...if I die before we expect. So here it goes.
1. PLEASE make sure our girls eat proper meals. Vegetables, fruit, meat, and not too much sugar. If you need help, please take lessons from our families. I know you cook some mean carne asada and you cook hot dogs and hamburgers like nobody's business. But you will need to eventually learn how to make steamed broccoli and asparagus.
2. Please make sure our girls go out in proper clothing. MATCHING outfits, including their shoes. You've said often that shoes are shoes. But trust me, to girls it means more. With that being said make sure their hair is brushed and done. And their teeth are brushed too. I know you know this. But you are also used to me doing it, so just a little reminder.
3. Please make sure you all continue to go to church. Tithe your 10% and serve God with your entire heart. Read the Bible to our girls and get involved in church activities. If I were to go sooner than expected, the church will be the most comfort to you, I promise.
4. Get our family members to babysit, and take some time out for yourself every now and then. At that point, you'd be a single daddy & you'll want a break sometimes. Don't feel guilty. You're doing a great job.
5. Follow your dreams. Teach our children to follow theirs. Do what's right for you guys even if others may not agree.
6. Make sure the girls have sleepovers. Let them be girls. Let them squeal & scream. It's fun to be a girl. Let them live it out. Buy them dress up clothes & play makeup. Paint their nails & if you need help with any of that, once again, ask our families.
7. Teach them how to work on the cars. Watch football with them. Teach them how to play sports and video games. Teach them about tools and computers. I want them to grow up learning just as much about you and what you like to do, as they would about me and what I like to do. Girls aren't made just for shopping & gossiping.
8. Don't be too hard on them. I'm sure if I go anytime soon, you'll want to keep them even closer. But let them explore (not too much). Let them learn their own lessons. Let them date (please) and let them have fun growing up. They'll only be their ages once. And it will be some of the best times of their lives.
9. Keep them around family. Travel with them. Have daddy & daughter dates, both together and separately. There is nothing like the bond a girl has with her dad. And they'll need that with you. Make sure it happens, please.
10. Last but not least (and I'm sure I can think of more later) maybe possibly look for love again....or not. I mean if you want I guess. As much as it pains me to think of you with someone else, I want you to be happy. Make sure she treats my children well or I will haunt her for the rest of her life. But really, you deserve love. You deserve a partner in life. Please take your time with it. But don't close your heart forever.
I have confidence in you as a daddy. I know that you'll be great with the girls if I ever happen to meet God before we expect. But I think my requests are reasonable.
Love,
Me
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