Blessed.

I've been trying to write a blog for some time now, but can't seem to find the right words to express myself. I have so much gratitude. And so much love that has filled me lately, it's really unbelievable. I've found a new outlook on friends. I used to be an avid speaker about how friends should ALWAYS be there for you. And as much as I agree with that, I really have a new outlook on friendship. See friendship isn't about what you can get out of it; it's more about what you give. Now I recognize how frustrating it is when it seems that your friends aren't putting as much effort into a friendship as you are. Are you the one to always text first? Are you the one who's always concerned about that person? Are you left feeling like they could care less about you? ...in some cases this could be true but in most cases I have found that those are just temporary feelings you may have. I went around for a long time feeling like I really didn't have any friends. When that is the furthest thing from the truth. I have a lot of friends actually. And although I may not hear from some of them for days, weeks, maybe even months...when I need them, truly need them...they are there. But I've found something that feels even more rewarding. Me being there for them. Whether they are going through a hard time or I just take the time to text them and say hi really quickly. See, what we need to realize especially in our grown up adult friendships, is that people are busy. I've heard the complaints saying well no one is too busy if they really care. Which I believe to be true but only to an extent. See when a mother loses her child, it's not about her being there for you...it's about you being there for her. When someone miscarried, it's not about her asking about your life all time, it's about you asking her how she is feeling. When someone has moved across the country and has really crappy days, it's not about her keeping up with you, it's about you giving her the understanding that life gets busy, especially in new places. When someone is pregnant, it's not about you feeling left out because you weren't the first to know things, it's about feeling blessed because you get to be a part of it somewhere along the line. It's looking past those silly things and really wondering what you can do for them. And trust me, they'll reciprocate for you. Friendship isn't about being together all the time or talking all the time. It's really about what you can bring to the table. Do you pray for that person? Send them encouraging texts or even hellos? Do you recognize them by liking their posts on social media or even writing a quick comment here and there? Maybe I'm crazy but to me, it's really the little things that matter. And I am so blessed to have the friendships I have. Especially lately. Thank God for growing up and I thank Him for showing me what it's like to really love someone and not always making it about myself. Remember, life gets busy. People may not respond right away or find the time to text back immediately. People have problems they are going through - REAL problems and it's our obligation to be the best friend WE can be. At least that's how I see it.